Part 1 Celebrant weddings - just ask!
After a lovely, long spring and summer of weddings, my thoughts have turned to what I would want from my wedding celebrant if I was getting married - and over the next few weeks, September and October weddings allowing, I'll share my thoughts on how to get the best from the celebrant you've chosen.
This blog assumes that those reading it know what a celebrant is, and does - see my page, Celebrant Weddings - a guide, if not.
(I have been asked how I 'got to be a Priestess', introduced as 'The Judge' and referred to as the 'vicar'...I am none of those...although I rather like the thought of being a priestess or having the gravitas of a judge...)
1 Ask questions, ask for explanations, make suggestions...
Don't hesitate to ask...you won't be the first person to ask that question. I've been asked:
'If we write our own vows, do we have to learn them by heart?'
No! But you can if you want to...
'Do we have to tell people we've married legally already?'
'Can we let people think this is the 'real' wedding?'
Yes...the atmosphere will be as 'real' as a 'real' one - but more romantic and unique to you...
'Can we sing?'
Oh yes - and dance down the aisle too if you like..! (Although see a later post for a dire warning...)
'We're gay -will you marry us?'
Of course and with pleasure...!
'Can we marry in a field of sunflowers?'
Yes - please do!
'Is there a way we can involve our children?'
'My family are religious - will they still find the ceremony meaningful?'
Yes, they almost certainly will - my ceremonies this year have included Roman Catholic families, Hindu families, Jewish guests - all of whom have made a point of saying afterwards how much they enjoyed the ceremony.
'Can we still have 'an aisle'?
Yes - it's all in the way you seat your guests - even if they're sitting on picnic blankets, you can walk through them...
'Can we have an 'elopement' ceremony?'
'Can we have a 'traditional' ceremony?
Of course - it's your ceremony - your choice.
'Can we have a very informal, laid back ceremony...?'
As above - absolutely your choice...
And of course, I've been asked many, many more questions - my point being: just ask!
Part 2 to follow...