A Celebrant in France suggests that we should Carpe Diem
- or seize the day - seize our lives - seize our loves...
Can there be anything more likely to make us consider life, love - and the whole damn thing - than sitting in a hospital waiting room waiting for surgery and looking about surreptitiously at our fellow victims?
Having done just that, this week, I think not...
We take so much for granted - that we will be healthy, that if anything goes wrong, we can be fixed and doctors should be able to fix us, that we deserve to live to a ripe old age - we feel entitled to it...
But in a week when I did that sitting and surreptitious looking, and when the sitting gave me time to consider how the lives of family members and friends have been blighted and cut short by health problems - and in a week when David Bowie and Alan Rickman were only two people who died relatively young - and when the world is looking an increasingly dangerous place - I end that week saying Carpe Diem! Seize the day! If you have life - live it!
So, that relatively gloomy start leads me to a much happier thought!
This year is a leap year. That means that if you are a woman, you can do the proposing...you haven't got to wait for himself to get things together - you can just up and do it! ( Although, personally, I don't know why women don't anyway...but that's another blog...)
According to an old Irish legend, St Brigid struck a deal with St Patrick to allow women to propose to men – every four years. She felt Irish men might be a little shy... When St Patrick agreed the folk tale tells us that Brigid then dropped to a knee and proposed to him that instant, but he refused, kissing her on the cheek and offering a silk gown to soften the blow.
The Irish tradition therefore dictates that any man refusing a woman's leap-day proposal must give her a silk gown.
So, if you feel you've been hanging around long enough, think about doing the proposing on February 29th this year - what have you got to lose - you might at least get a new dress out of it...or, indeed, twelve pairs of gloves!
In some places, Leap Day has been known as 'Bachelors’ Day.' In many European countries, especially in the upper classes of society, tradition dictates that any man who refuses a woman's proposal on February 29 has to buy her twelve pairs of gloves. The intention is that the woman can wear the gloves to hide the embarrassment of not having an engagement ring.
...a somewhat frivolous blog, I know, but with a serious centre - think about what is important to you this year and go and grab it...and enjoy it!
Here's to a happy and healthy 2016!